the need to feel special

a person’s desperation for love can be picked up by others in as little as four minutes, an effect that is off-putting to potential dates who want to be made to feel special.

http://bps-research-digest.blogspot.com/2007/05/downside-of-having-too-much-love.html

dating is more than either triumph or intimacy.
It is a solitary and modern substitute for dancing in the streets