going sane

Sanity involves learning to enjoy conflict:

Tyrannical fantasies of our own perfectibility lurk in even our simplest ideals, Darwin and Freud intimate, so that any ideal can become another excuse for punishment. Lives dominated by impossible ideals, complete honesty, absolute knowledge, perfect happiness, eternal love are experienced as continuous failure.

Adam Phillips, psychoanalyst:

If you have a sense of reality you are going to be really troubled. Anybody in this culture who watches the news and can be happy – there’s something wrong with them.